Double Standards

Over the past few weeks I have had many conversations with friends, of both sexes, about the double standard that exists in our culture when it comes to sex. Many women feel that they would be slandered by men and labeled “sluts” and “whores” for doing half the dirt that men do and get away with. Almost all of these women felt like society should hold both men and women to the same set of standards when it comes to sex. Are these women right? Should we look at men and women equally when it comes to sex or is it right that they are held up to a higher standard?

The main reason that men are able to get away with more is because we have always set the rules. As far back as ancient Egypt men have always been the dominant sex. We were the ones who created the laws of the land and had the power to change those laws to our liking. We had free reign to do what we wanted to do, when, and whenever we wanted to do it.

Even though we have always wanted to please our woman and treat them like queens they didn’t have much power. A woman’s main responsibility was to mother our kids and make sure dinner was on the table when we came home. History makes us believe that their major responsibility was to do what we wanted and satisfy us.

I believe that this lack of balance in the relationship between men and women is a major reason why we have the double standard about sex that we currently have. Pharaohs in Egypt fathered countless children from different women. The women were supposed to remain faithful and loyal to him. Even though our society has moved on greatly to balance the relationship between the sexes, and that “old school” behavior is not acceptable today, some of those thought patterns still remain the same.

Men today who are not in a relationship are expected to run wild and have as many partners as they can. Men talk about the bodies that they have collected through their years like boxers talk about their wins in the ring. Even though this might not be the wisest and healthiest way to live today with the consequences that can occur, it is still the way we live. We never claimed to have always thought with our upper head when it comes to the opposite sex and sex.

Women though, are supposed to wisely pick and choose the people that they get involved with. Those who spread their legs quickly to many men are looked at as easy victories. While those who are selective and do not bounce from guy to guy to guy to guy are looked at as quality victories. Trust me ladies you want to be that quality victory.

Your buddies who are easy victories might get more attention, but it’s not the type of attention that you should want. We use them to help us train and prepare like boxers use sparring partner before a major pay per view bout. At the end of the day they are nothing more than confidence builders who keep us from getting ring rust and in fighting shape.

Ladies you got to understand that this double standard benefits you in the long run. We use this in determining who is used for random fun and who gets to come home in meet the folks. It may not always be the best way to make decisions, and its usually not the only criteria, but hey it works for us.